Missing loved ones at Christmas is something many of us find to be particularly difficult.?
Sometimes it can help us to talk to our missing loved ones. I know this is something that I find useful for me. ? I usually talk to my stepmum in my head on a regular basis.
I also have somewhere special in my garden that reminds me of her. I’ve popped the picture below. ?
It can be helpful to consider in advance how you are going to spend your Christmas. ? Particularly when it is your first Christmas. Some of us may find that doing everything the way we have always done it, gives us a sense of security and normality. There are others who might feel that they are not ready to celebrate the festivities, and that is okay.
What I would like you to consider today is one small thing you could do to help you cope a little bit better without your loved one this Christmas.
You don’t have to tell anyone what it is. This is something that is purely for you, and only you. ? Something that you might say to yourself, something you might give to yourself, or maybe something you might do for yourself.
It can be anything at all, as long as it is achievable, and doesn’t cause harm to you or to anyone else.
For me, I tell myself that my stepmum loved all of us, and that she wants the best for all of us.? I also hold her close through small items of hers being near to me. Sometimes I visit places I know that were special to her.
These are the things that keep me going, there will be other things that keep you going. Take each day, each hour, one step at a time, keep moving forwards. If you need to talk, you are welcome to message me ?Love and light ?