What do you think about when you consider the term looking out for luck? I remember watching an episode of Derren Brown years ago that was filmed in a local park to me, Todmorden. I found it fascinating as he spoke about “luck” and looking out for luck.
He had an unknowing (but willing) participant in the first instance. He was well known in the area as being “the most unluckiest man”. So, Derren put some opportunities to the test. Derren placed “lucky” opportunities in this mans path throughout a number of days, and the man didn’t notice any of them. At one point, he even placed a £20 note on the ground, knowing that the man would be walking that route shortly after. The man walked the route and was completely blind to the £20 note.
So, what is the purpose of me telling you this? Well, if you are not looking out for luck, then Derrens experiment demonstrated that you really won’t find it. But why is that? Shall we take a little look at the science behind why looking out for look can change our day?
Okay so, our brain really pays attention to what we tell it. Both consciously and subconsciously. If we constantly tell ourselves that everyone is luckier than we are, then it works on that basis. Alternatively, if we constantly tell ourselves that we are lucky, then it is always actively seeking out opportunities to help us to reinforce that statement. Research has shown this time and time again.
Sometimes the best laid plans don’t always come to fruition. However, if the best laid plans are made, our brain starts to look out for luck, for opportunities to make those plans a success. If you never created a plan in the first place, our brain is never going to look for opportunities to succeed with an unknown goal, because it doesn’t know about it.
Let’s take a typical example that I hear of frequently.
When I win the lottery I’m going to do x, y, and z. First of all we acknowledge that in order to win the lottery, we must buy a ticket (NB: I do not endorse gambling). For those that have the goal and don’t believe it could ever happen to them, they don’t buy the ticket. But on top of that, they then don’t believe that the incredible x, y, and z, could ever be an option for them, and so they stop looking out for luck and opportunities in relation to making their dreams come true.
For some people, they buy a ticket and believe the chances are so low (which is true), that they will never ever win. And again, they leave their dreams behind deciding that they will never happen.
For a small few, whether or not they buy that lottery ticket, they will hold their dreams in place quite firmly. They have this ideology that at some point in the future, theyre not sure how yet, but they will achieve their dream of x, y, and z.
So, now what happens to those people? Well, those people start identifying ways to make those dreams become a reality. Those are the people who find the £20 note that Derren Brown purposefully left in the street for them to pick up.
Okay, now let’s visit you and your mind. Do you believe you are lucky? I believe I am lucky, but I believe I make my own luck. When we begin to take responsibility for our own goals, we really can begin to work towards them and make it happen.
I grew up on a council estate in Derbyshire. My family had very little money. My parents hadn’t ever gone to University, they did their best for me, and loved me. That didn’t stop me from striving for my best. I decided at a young age that I wanted to be a therapist. My goal initially was that when I was about fifty years old, I’d become a therapist after working my way up in my previous role.
I worked my way up in my previous role in a relatively short period of time, and then decided I was ready to become a therapist. So, a goal I’d had that spanned over forty years, now became a goal that came true in ten years.
This happened because I had the goal in my mind. I truly believed it would happen, and therefore looked out for opportunities to make it happen. Not only that, but I worked hard to make it happen too.
So, I’d love you to think of your hopes and dreams right now. To really believe that they will come true, and start to think about what you can do this week to help you begin on your new life path, and who knows what adventures you might experience along the way.